“The common perception is that when a woman is pregnant, she is most beautiful and radiates the perfection of her beauty and power.”

Reena Kumarasingham

What attitude should the father take in this new stage? And the mother?

A woman’s body is prepared for childbirth and for developing a living being. But a man’s is not, and therefore it is difficult for him to understand what is happening to his wife.

First of all, communication between the couple is important, both from one side and the other. Just as it is natural that the woman’s libido is attenuated by focusing on her future child, it is also normal that the man’s libido is not satisfied.

Being able to tell each other’s needs helps the couple. Unfortunately, the man is the loser in this case. If the mother-to-be does not want to have a baby, she should respect his decision and contribute to the development of the pregnancy.

In their book “What to Expect When You’re Expecting“, Arlene Eisenberg H. Murkoff and S. Hathaway postulate, however, that through speech, the man should perceive the reasons why she is not interested in the sexual act. If these reasons are due to the ugliness of her body and consequently she doesn’t feel attractive, the man will be able, with insistence and tact, to motivate his woman’s desire. He will insist on how beautiful she looks in certain clothes, the sensuality of her now larger breasts and the desire that just looking at her provokes in him.

The woman, deep down, may feel the same attraction for her husband but not for her and flattery helps to overcome this. As everything is done as a couple, it is important to know each other’s needs, analyze them and act for the benefit of both.

Men and sex life during pregnancy
Men and sex life during pregnancy

Now let’s look at how the mother and father feel during pregnancy. Understanding and anticipating these feelings will help you cope and enjoy them.

First trimester

  • Parental roles and priorities are questioned.
  • It can change the sexual relationship.
  • Contradictory feelings may occur: joy and excitement versus resentment and anxiety.
  • The baby’s well-being can be a pressing concern.
  • Economic issues can influence attitudes towards parental status.

Second trimester

  • They can change sexual desire and activity.
  • Pregnancy is more enjoyable.
  • Increases awareness of parenting styles.

Third trimester

  • They feel the responsibilities of being a parent.
  • Fear arises regarding childbirth.
  • Changes in sexual intercourse persist. They may try appropriate positions or alternative techniques.

Term

  • They are already mentally prepared for the birth.
  • They are excited and/or apprehensive.

Postpartum

  • They fall in love with the baby.
  • Tiredness can make everything seem difficult.
  • They assume parental responsibilities.
  • The couple’s relationship changes; it can be strengthened or tensions can arise. You need to incorporate a sense of humour as you are going through a period of trials and errors.

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